
Mr MS’s contribution
It’s unclear who’s in charge at our plot. Officially it’s my 87-year old Dad. But I spend a lot of time down there and own all the gardening books.
Mr Mandy Sutter is there so infrequently he doesn’t even dare voice opinions, especially since Dad and I are working hard this month, hoiking monstrous roots up from the Underworld (me) and ‘strengthening’ the shed (Dad). The shed now has more reinforcements than the Forth Road Bridge.
Mr MS’s last contribution (3 months ago) was building a self-assembly bench.
It looked fine, but when Dad and I sat on it, there was a loud crack and Dad dropped down two inches.
‘Well, what do you expect when you buy a bench for £35?’ he said calmly, and set to work with the screws, tools and small toblerone-shaped pieces of wood that are his stock in trade.
The bench was strengthened.
‘Great job, Dad!’ I said.
He frowned. ‘It’s adequate.’
Flattery always irritates him. The word ‘great’ is probably meaningless when spoken by a DIY dolt like me. Or perhaps he just doesn’t like being patronised.
Whatever, I contented myself with sitting on the bench again and enjoying a feeling of confidence that the seat was going to hold. But Mr MS hasn’t been seen on the allotment since.
One Sunday, after a particularly strenuous session, I come home caked in mud to find him lying on the chaise longue, reading the Sunday papers.
‘Are you going to put some preservative on that bench?’ I ask, by way of a greeting.

A driving instructor in his spare time
Mr MS, a driving instructor in his spare time, reacts to danger by slowing down. He makes langorous hand movements. ‘It’s on the list.’
I know ‘the list’ for the passive-aggressive tool it is. But I don’t want an argument; I want a bath. I settle for the last word. ‘Well, it needs doing, with the bad weather coming. That’s all I’m saying.’
Later, Mr MS says that funnily enough, the job had been on his mind and he intends ‘putting an hour in’ on it next weekend. I am mollified, and make turnip mash for tea.
A few days later, while Dad and I are building a compost heap out of logs and old pallets, I mention Mr MS’s plans for the bench.

Compost heap
Dad is dismissive. ‘Doesn’t need treating. Made of hardwood. Should go a nice silvery colour.’
I am quite pleased. I can put Mr MS’s proffered hour to use digging up brambles instead.
But before Mr MS is due to start work, Dad rings. ‘Don’t know why I was laying down the law about preservative. After all, it’s your bench.’
Then he rings again, ‘Besides, I’ve been thinking. Treating the bench will keep it the same colour as the shed and that’s no bad thing.’
I report all this back to Mr MS, who frowns. ‘So… what did you say?’
‘I said you’d make your own decision when you got down there.’
‘Hah! Now we both know that’s not true. Is it, foreman?’ That’s his pet name for me.
‘No,’ I say. ‘You’re digging up brambles.’
Later, I’m eager to hear of Mr MS’s progress. It happens to be our ninth anniversary of love and we are out for a meal at the time.

Over the tapenade
He says, over the tapenade, that I may have to sue him for pulling up the wrong bush, and for spending twenty minutes at the allotment instead of the full hour stipulated.
I nearly choke on my Rioja. ‘What…?’
‘Now, don’t get arsey.’ He explains that he had to rush off and do a driving lesson. His ‘timings’ got mixed up.
‘You don’t have to be Freud to work that little slip out,’ I snarl.
‘No,’ he concedes. ‘But there is some good news.’
‘What?’ I teeter on the brink of rage.
‘I really enjoyed those twenty minutes.’
I don’t want an argument; I want a nice evening. And I sense an opening. ‘So you’ll be going down there again, then?’
‘Oh! I…’
I shoot him a look that says he’s one step away from a written warning. He leafs through his diary. ‘I could pop down tomorrow.’
The foreman nods.
The next time Dad sees the bench, he’ll shake his head and say, ‘I don’t understand why he hasn’t done that job,’ and nothing I say about brambles or priorities will explain it to his satisfaction.
But for tonight, peace is preserved. The chain of command, though rattled, remains unbroken.
I enjoy this version of reality.
Here is a poem about a vegetable plot, composed close to my own compost heap:
Bos taurus primigenius
You can learn things sat concealed
behind a screen of runner beans
twined up bamboo poles and strings.
A hopping robin picks at bits
below the courgette leaves and kale.
Nonchalant, he works closer
till he stops two feet away.
He’s eyeing me with interest – as if
I represent a possibility.
Perhaps he’s been doing this
since the end of the last ice age –
always keeping company with ponderous,
earth-tearing mammals and making
a useful sort of living, off small things
that flit around their ancient feet.
For him, I’m not a gardener,
I’m a great, horned forest ox,
a lumbering, trampling aurochs.
Dhruvasimha c. 2005
revised 8/10 and sent to Malton Lit Fest 8/10
But it failed to make short-list. Though another of mine has!
Hi Mandy – lots of LOL moments again! The pic of the front of the compost heap reminds me of those impromptu African gates. As a recycled assemblage, I am assuming it will escape the preservative daub to make it a matching piece with the other allotment furniture…or is it on the list??
9 years – congratulations!!
Jacqui
Well set for another 9 years – all of you – on the basis of this glimpse of life with the MSs … Enjoy.
Love the poem, Harry! It is quite amazing how keenly robins eye you. You do wonder what they’re ‘thinking.’ Good luck with the competition.
Jac, ha, I hadn’t thought of the compost enclosure as a candidate for the brush! Think I’ll keep schtum about that (as Dad would say).
Reb – thanks!!
Happy anniversary!
I love your wee allotment stories. Keep them coming.
S was just a garden shed
seedy weedy, source of
screedy, small and truly
no-one’s-fooly, bench and
tooly, palatial little garden shed.
With apologies to Edward Lear, via the habitatabet
hi mandy, i like the idea of the chain of command, i wonder whether you should be so explicit about it though, sometimes these things are best left unsaid in case mr MS or mr KJ happen to tune in.9th a anniversary !, i remember when you and Mr MS were considering each other. i want to say that i have always liked him. xxxxxx kate
So the real reluctant gardener is revealed? This arrangement is much better than having a committee, I’d say.
Love hearing tim stories. He makes me laugh so much! I’m continuing to be thoroughly nourished by your wonderful stories. Happy memories of early tim time here too. tWas all sooo exciting! Totally overwhelmed by enormous Australian size garden here. Inching our way towards getting veggies going but have to spend most of our time keeping on top of mowing the forest of weeds that is the lawn. Normally this wouldn’tbe a priority for us as neatness is a thing belonging to toddler free past but if the grass is long we can’t see the snakes!!
Keep em coming lovely! XxX
Thanks, Bodhipaksa: I’m so glad you’re one of my readers.
Kathy, no-one’s fooly, bench and tooly – you rock.
Kate, thanks for championing Mr MS. And don’t worry – he vets my posts. He thought this one ‘close to home’ but liked its ‘candour’. I’m not sure I’d be so generous if the roles were reversed!
Pete, yes, exactly, alhough ‘reluctant’ probably isn’t a strong enough adjective from Mr MS’s point of view!
And Liz, snakes? Urk: that certainly adds a new dimension to things. Thanks so much for your interesting Oz snippets.
Folks, I will keep the stories coming – originally I’d planned to stop over the winter, but those in the know tell me there are things to do when the days get shorter – spreading muck for example. And I’m sure the shed needs more reinforcing…
HI Mandy
just back from walking up Great Gable…brilliant , but have knackered my knees big time coming down the nose! just wondered about your photos…are those two different rabbit -proof fence prototypes I see lurking behind the bench and the compost heap? If so, how’s it going with your little furry friends? It’s all gone very quiet ? Or did Mrs McGregor Scarecrow frighten them off? yours, concerned of Ilkley, Liz x
PS congrats on you and Mr MS’s 9th!!The symbols for the 9th , by the way, are pottery or willow and poppies, so maybe you could plant a little willow arbour with some beautiful pots of california poppies to symbolise your blissful union… or better still get Mr MS to do it for you in that forty minutes he owes you! gotta keep the chain of command!
I must confess that we men do not communicate very well and thus tend to infuriate our better halves. Thanks, you gave me a new word, “hoiking.”
You are such a funny writer Mandy; a great way for us would-be in some fantasy worls allotment holders to enjoy the fruits of your labours without physical effort
I wonder where ‘on the list’ comes from? I use it when visitors come to my lemon grove where in three years I have built a house, a wooden house and a pool on an acre of olives and citrus. These neighbours and friends say helpfully ‘but why haven’t you?…’ I have found that saying calmly ‘It’s on the list’ reduces the temptation to point out all of my significant achievements!
Liz, well spotted on the fences. The green fence is council erected and non rabbit proof (there’s a 9″ gap at the bottom). The other is our neighbour’s. We’re still pootling around with flimsy chicken wire enclosures. But they seem to work (as Dad loves to point out to all those who have built proper fences)
Thanks, Lamar and Marilyn. Much appreciated!
Julie, that sounds very tactful. And a pool? I didn’t realise. Can’t wait to visit!
I’m sort of thinking I shouldn’t comment on any form of annual celebration in your household.
It’s simpler not to have a chain of command at all, I find – and those nearest seem to agree! Being a one-man band is a bit of a slog sometimes, but no management handbook is required, and the non-active participant really has no nagging rights.
And I reckon winter is catching-up time. Wielding a spade as I speak. Well, not exactly…
How come all Dad’s have toblerone ( hilarious ) pieces of wood in stock & all husband’s have “lists” of stuff to do – invariably of things that never ever get done ??
Been a nystery to me for years.
Keep ’em coming – I look forward to a good laugh on a regular basis.
However – if for next few months or so I don’t reply – forgive me – going in hospital 3rd November for 2nd op on my ankle – & a horrendous one it is too. Will be in pot for 3 months – 6 weeks of which total non weight bearing. My arms are going to be more toned than when we had an allotment. So if I am capable of getting to the computer ( more importantly – into the chair without falling over ) I shall look forward to being entertained !!
Nine years eh? Where’ve they gone?
“…a driving instrictor in his spare time” – that was funny.
Sounds nice and uncomplicated, John. I picture you as a sort of Lone Ranger of the Allotments, leaning on your spade in your chaps, eyes resting on the far horizons of the Kirkstall prarieland…
Charmaine, good luck with that op. I’ll be thinking of you. And I’ll go on sending stories, esp now I know they’ve a job to do.
Looby yes, nine years, scary in any context!
Thanks for that – I’ll look forward to it – oh the responsibilty !
i shall visualise your plot as I’m going under …
‘The chain of command, though rattled, remains unbroken.’ Fab! You capture your Dad, Mr MS,… and yourself, brilliantly Mandy. C x
You are kind, Char! Thank you. X