Last in a series of reissued blog posts in memory of my Dad…
I have come to love Autumn, with its promise of a long brutal winter to come that freezes the ground and makes gardening impossible. But this year when September arrives, Dad rings with strange news. ‘You’ll never guess. We’ve been awarded the prize for Best Allotment!’
‘Oh, I don’t know. The In Bloom people, I think.’
‘I didn’t even know there was a prize,’ I say, wondering if he has got hold of the wrong end of some sort of stick. The whole thing seems so unlikely.
But he goes on, with a convincing level of detail. ‘We’re invited to the presentation tea this Saturday. We can wedge up on cucumber sarnies and cream scones!’
The tea is being held at a local posherie.
‘Really?’ I say. ‘I can’t believe it.’ It has been a difficult growing year, swinging from drought to deluge and back again. A lot of allotmenteers got to July, dug their early potatoes then abandoned their plots for the rest of the season. Perhaps that’s why we won: because we didn’t.
‘Oh well. That’ll be lovely!’ I say, belatedly.
But I’m not sure that it will. Dad, at 90, has reached a difficult age. Difficult for me, that is. He has abandoned his £2,000 hearing aid on the grounds that the batteries are too expensive (5p each) and also his false teeth, relying instead on his 6 or so stained and broken natural ones. He’s no oil painting, but comments unkindly on other people’s weight, height, nose, ears, teeth or lack of them and hair or lack of it in an exceptionally loud voice.
I wish I could take a different family member to the tea, one who has excelled at digging this year and has eaten all the produce no-one else wanted, like windfall apples, worm-eaten potatoes and stringy beans. But the invitation says dogs aren’t allowed.
I ring the organisers and ask if we can bring an extra human. ‘If that fails, I’ll come,’ says Mr MS. Fair enough, as he has contributed as much to the allotment as Dad this year (ie nothing).
But the organisers say no. ‘Never mind,’ says Mr MS, too quickly. His session in front of Match of the Day stands unthreatened. ‘He’s your Dad! Take him. It’ll be a lovely trip out.’
I remember our last lovely trip out to the Garden Centre, when the woman in front of Dad hesitated in front of the six-packs of pansies. ‘Giddon out of it!’ he muttered as drove his trolley into hers. She gave a startled cry and dropped her handbag. He, of course, pretended it was an accident.
‘He gets quite lairy these days,’ I say.
‘I’m sorry,’ says Mr MS, ‘but if you think your Dad qualifies as lairy, you’ve led a sheltered life.’
‘Alright,’ I say quickly, before he can start talking about the antics of drinking buddies from back in the day. ‘Point taken.’
In the event, none of the things I’m expecting to happen do. Dad talks over the presentation speeches because he can’t hear them and keeps saying loudly that tea is all very well but where’s the real drink? But even a wuss like me can cope with that.
Then something happens that I’m not expecting.
As we leave the hotel, Dad loses his footing and falls down two stone steps to land flat on his face at the bottom.
Time stands still.
Then I rush to help, anticipating at least a dozen broken bones.
‘I’m alright,’ he says again and again. ‘I’m alright.’
But his face is puce and getting him to his feet takes enormous effort on both our parts. We limp to a nearby bench and sit for a long time. No-one emerges from the hotel or passes by on the pavement. The entire incident has gone oddly unwitnessed.
He doesn’t want doctors involved, so when his face is a better colour, I drive him home. I don’t sleep a wink all night. But in the morning, he says he has suffered no ill effects at all, except for a small round bruise on his thigh, caused by the pound coin that was in his trouser pocket.
This seems even more miraculous than us winning the prize.
Shortly afterwards the hotel goes bust. Perhaps it was sued by someone who fell down its (unmarked) stone steps. For a year, Dad and I are custodians of a silvery plaque that we swap between mantelpieces. The hotel is converted into flats.
The plot goes on being a place where neglect and failure seem only a heartbeat (or a summer mini break) away. In almost every respect, it’s as though it never happened.
Except for one thing. I now know that there is a prize. And I can’t help myself from trying, albeit in a half arsed kind of way, to win it again.
Drawings by Janis Goodman
Mandy I love it! And I know the difficulties, albeit not with an allotment in the mix. Only a matter of time (short time) before my mum begins forgetting all her grandchildren. She’s met six of her eight great grandchildren but seldom sees them so doesn’t actually know they exist.
Excellent Mandy!! It reads so well in Segovia!
I love your second sentence so much. The story of falling down the steps reminded me of visiting Oslo with Grahame once. I fell down the icy front steps of the (quite posh) hotel. I had the most amazing bruise! You really would think they’d have a grip on de-icing steps in Oslo in winter but hey ho. The only reason we were in the hotel at all was that our travel company had forgotten to book us into the hotel we were supposed to be staying in. So there we were, with the other couple we’d bonded with over the travel company’s crapness, in a 5* hotel with only outdoor gear to wear to the smart restaurant full of people having corporate Christmas parties!
Thanks so much for commenting Sue and sorry to hear that about your Mum. Yes, the phrase ‘out of sight, out of mind’ seems to become super relevant for the elderly!
Thank you John. Enjoy the rest of your holiday!
Thank you Josie and that’s my favourite sentence too. Your story is great and surreal and yes, who’d have thought that a hotel in Norway wouldn’t put grit or salt on their steps? I’m glad your slip didn’t put an end to the holiday!
Ooh Mandy ! So glad the Reluctant Hardener is back !! I ve missed it ! Reading this gorgeous polished gem from our airbnb in Mission, Canada, it made me smile so much and long for home. Your lovely dad is amazing..makes me think of my lovely mum reading this.Good to see your competit I’ve spirit is still very much alive and kicking..and hope you down at the allotment right now preparing to win ! Big catch up when I get home..with cream tea if at all possible ! ××××
Liz, how great to hear from you and have loved seeing your pics on FB. Perhaps we should go for a Booths afternoon tea – I’ve still never had one – when you get back. Or even Betty’s. How incredibly English that will seem after your wonderful Canadian trip! XXX
I keep changing my mind about my favourite sentence but the reluctance to buy 5p batteries made me chuckle…
LOL yes and I think a lot of us have a ‘ceiling’ for certain categories of expenditure, even though they make no sense!
Mandy, so good to hear that the Top Plot and your Dad are still going strong. At our Writers’ Circle I introduced your blog – I hope your ears were burning – but you have inspired one of the ladies who has an article accepted in Wiltshire Life!
Such a tender story, Mandy, beautifully told, thanks.
Bernard, thanks so much for recommending my blog – I’m always happy to have new readers! And my congratulations to your friend on her published article.
Thank you for that lovely feedback Elaine.
I love this Mandy. Your writing just gets better and better: funny, touching and just right about when you know there is a prize. Glad not to meet Psycho Sid.
LOL thanks so much Marilyn, that’s high praise indeed coming from you. P.s. I’ll make sure Psycho Sid stays away
Enjoyed your amusing “plot”, made me chuckle!
I am a fairly reluctant gardener and am now trying to subjugate the jungle pre winter dozing in front of the fire. It was too hot this summer to do much and is now rapidly becoming too cold/wet. There rarely seems to be just the right weather to set to. And then there is the time consuming business of relocating all the necessary implements to do the jobs which always seem to be missing. I recently re discovered my favourite trowel which had been hiding in the jungle for several years….missing presumed dead!
Ping pong (not for me currently as I have to be available day and night in case of the perfect gardening weather suddenly descending….now where did I last see my spade? )
Great humour and pathos. I love the fact your Dad won’t pay for the batteries in his hearing aids and his running commentary on other people.
I don’t know how you get the spacing and pace of this writing so well. Tips please. I really enjoyed it.
I have just taken on a quarter allotment plot. Today my compost bin blew away. I also realised I have positioned my poly-tunnels crossways against the prevailing wind. All the surrounding plots go with the wind direction, to reduce resistance, I now perceive. I have planted my over-wintering onions too early (over eager). I will go through your back numbers to learn how to win best allotment prize.
LOL Dave, exactly… and winter dozing by firelight sounds wonderful!
That’s great, thanks so much Emma. Yes, I’ve been reflecting on those random ceilings we all have for spending money. I don’t like spending over £3 for a cappuccino – which of course strikes me as totally reasonable!
Oh crikey Gail, good luck with your new plot, how fab. Yes it is SUCH a learning curve. I don’t know how we won a prize – probably only because it was a terrible year and most other allotmenteers had given up!
Brilliant Mandy as usual.
Thank you v much Lyn! See you soon.
Another entertaining blog Mandy. Both funny and sad – so sad that your Dad doesn’t remember the prize but good that he’s forgotten the fall.
Congrats on winning your prize – you’re so modest I’d have been shouting it out from the rooftops. You secretly must be very proud. Love Christine
Thanks v much for your comment Christine. Yes, despite the strange fact of winning it on a year when I wasn’t really trying, I was secretly proud!
Oh Mandy – your posts make me laugh and cry. It’s so poignant hearing about your Dad now, but also it’s great to hear he’s still ploughing such an uncompromising furrow!! Sending lots of love to you, your Dad, Mr MS and Fable from the S coast of Oz. C xx
Char, great to hear from you all the way from the land Down Under. Thanks so much for your lovely comments. Enjoy the rest of your trip.
Good stuff as always Mandy, you have the coolness of a saint! are there Buddhist saints??
Joe/Julie
LOL thanks Joe and Julie. I don’t know about Buddhist saints, but I like the idea!
Great to see your Dad featuring again. What a character – in the really positive sense of the word! Probably said this before, but I really wish I’d met him. Yet in a way I have – through your wonderful words!!
Thanks John, that’s a lovely thing to say. Yes, he was unique and at the same time typical of his generation, with their incredible resourcefulness.
Any more allotment blog / posts to come Mandy?
Hi John, no that’s it for now as Janis and I are writing and drawing some new episodes in hopes of turning it into a book next. Will keep you posted!
Lovely to read this Mandy – and congratulations on the Allotment Trophy/Plaque win!! Your Dad without hearing aid and teeth and refusing the 5p batteries made me laugh and wince – my Mum is exactly the same! I am deeeeeelighted to hear that you and Janis are working on a book – hooray!!! Really looking forward to that. Much love, C x
Char, thank you. And I have to admit that I’ve got a hearing aid now and find that I’m inclined to forget to put it in and feel that changing the battery is too much trouble! Mr MS has a new tetchy sentence, which is ‘have you got your hearing aid in?’ – just the question I used to ask Dad!!